Don’t Forget to Look at your Partner

The cliché about staring into a lover’s eyes? It’s backed by science.
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What the science says
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Eye contact is a cornerstone of non-verbal communication between individuals. (The others are tone, pitch, speed of speech and body language) Did you know that? Eye contact is a key element that connects people when they’re communicating, and it shows their level of intimacy with each other. This is why you feel uncomfortable holding a prolonged gaze with a stranger but are okay to do it with someone you trust.
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Eye contact in your relationship
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Eye contact tells us if our SO is listening and responding to us; it lets us know when we have their full attention, it allows us to see their emotions including when they’re concerned, happy, having fun and feeling love.
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It IMPROVES your communication
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When we look at why a lot of relationships end, it can come down to a breakdown in communication. In the age of screens, it’s becoming harder and harder to get that full attention we crave. When you’re trying to relate something important and their full attention isn’t given in the form of eye contact, people reported having their feelings hurt. If what they are trying to convey isn’t given the attention they feel it deserves, they can withdraw a little bit from that relationship.
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What to do about it?
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The good news here is that making time to give your partner your undivided attention in the way of eye contact can actually work to repair your relationship. It tells them I’m paying attention to you, I see you, you are what I am focusing on. It lets them know you’re interested in what they have to say. It’s that simple.

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